A conversation between Debarati, Baishakhi and Devlinadi *Debarati...* Banglar bodhura, ami ekta unique offer peyechi amar meyer schooler chair person er kach theke,tinio amader boyewsee i hoben graduation /postgraduation US theke kore ese ekhon ekjon sofol enterpreneuer, maa ebong dayeetoshil meyer bhumika palon korecholechen.. ghotona chokre taar songe amar bes bondhutto hoye jay. gotokaal dekhe hotei eta seta bolbar por she wanted to know what can we do abt mentally retarded children..uni chaichen ekta school khulte ei compounder modhyei for these children ete uni children with lower iq theke severely mentally retarded der include korte chaichen. tomra ki keu ei bishoye kaaj korecho? baa kichu jano? parle please amake janio. <http://www.orkut.com/Profile.aspx?uid=14588861266775684970> *Baishakhi* Hi Debarati..
Ami Germany thaka kaleen erokom ekti shongsthar shonge jorito cchilam... shoptahe ekdin ami erokom ekti school e voluntary kaaj kortam... tokhon anek jenecchi ar sikhecchi.... tomar bandhobi shotti je koto dayittoshil nijer jibon abong samaj er prati.. seta onar chintadhara dekhei bojha jay... EU countries e eidharaner shongshtan chalate gele founder abong prattekti member ke CHILD MAINTAINING course korte hoy, tacchara keu chakri payna... ar ei course gulo sikhiye dey je koto dhairjo dorkar baccha der shonge samay katabar jonne.. bisesh kore Metally retarded children... tader jogot onno, tara boro hoye giyeo sishu, tader kothay ktohay rege jawa... heshe oth, kinba kokhono kokhono agressive howa, shabi sabhabik. Aar amader jonne khub kothin deal kora... karon shab mahila hoyto parben na maniye cholte.. ar erokom paristhitite rege giye kaan mole dewa ba maar dhor kora khub ekta oshabhabik noy... tai bolcchi... tomar bondhur icche jano puron hoy.. kintu uni child mentor recruit korar samay jano ottadhik beshi sacheton thaken... karon interview r samay sabai doyar korun sagar seje ashe.. kintu bastabik bhabe onnorokom...
ar ei dhoroner bacchara needs more protection and love than anybody else... !!! thanks a lot baishakhi.. anek kichu jante parlam. ami onake egulo bolbo...infact ei schoolta ekhankar best school aar ei school ta sthapon korechilen onar baba who was a famous person in tirunelveli sei dik theke dekhte gele uni nischoi best counsellorder songei kotha bolte parben asha korchi. <http://www.orkut.com/Profile.aspx?uid=14800088419198627056> *Devlina di* Debarati Anek bacchader thik moton 'Mental Retardation' diagnosis kora hoy na. Topic ta birat o anek different facets e dekhte hoy. Ami just teente aspect bolte chai. ekhane ei dutu aspecter bishoy aneke BB te technical gyan ditey parben. 1. Proper diagnosis. Eta bhalo, well qualified professional der hatey kora uchit. This is expensive karon kichhu test korano dorkar. Blood test (Thyroid , Aminoacid, Phenylketonuria, Chromosome analysis ityadi), EEG (Brain wave tracings- jate epilepsy-ba mirgi rog dhora porey) aar ta chhara bhalo Physical Examination ebong Psychometric testing kora dorka. Bhalo diagnosis na holey shathik treatment o teacher der kaaj korano ta 'ek pa egono aar du pa pechhano'. Taka'r shomoshya ta i shob cheye beshi problem. Kintu e ta jana uchit, je anek teaching hospitals e nominal charge e testing korano jaay. Ta chhara anek NGO ra e kaaj cheshta korchhe. 2.Debarati, je likhechho, compound e aar ekta school er katha (thik bujhlam ki?) sheta'r bishoy ekta comment. Mentally retarded baccha der o anek degrees of retardation thake. Khub beshi severe na holey, oder 'main stream' class e boshiye porano ta best. Ora 'normal' chhele meyeder kachh theke best shekhe. Aar jara 'normal' tara o shekhe how to adjust and live with the less fortunate. 3. Ma, Baba, family ebong society puro support dorkar. Taka poysha ta kintu boro byapar na. Ami nije dekhechhi anek dhoni manush tader mentally challenged chhele meyeder tyag kore dey. Abar anek gorib poribar tader nijer santan bole ja parey, tai bhaga bhagi korey tader nijeder mentally challenged santan ke jotno korey. BB'r member der kachh theke comment dekhte chaichhi. Debarati, tumi emon shomoy e important topic ta launch korle, jokhon shobai onno dikey byasto. Sheta ashwabhabik na, je anek er chokhe porey ni (ami o aaj obdi dekhi ni). Asha korchhi, e topic er discussion ta khub bhalo rokom hobe, ebong aneke nijeder experience, NGO'r porichoy etc ditey egiye aashbe. *Debarati* 'A Society is judged by how it treats its most vulnerable members' thankd a lot devlina di, janina amar bondhuti kotodur egote parben kintu ei information ..je oder ek songei class korte deoa hok .. nischoi janabo.jokhono i ei rokom kono bachchake dekhi bhagoban ke hajar bar dhanyobaad di je amar bachcha sustho hoye jonmeche ... kintu emon anekei achen dekhechi eirokom bachchader dekhle ulte tader baba mayer kache giye hajarta prosno kore onader embarass korbar chesta koren.ei dhoroiner bachcha boro kora je ki kothin kaaj ei ta bes bhaloi bujhte oarchi .. sei baba mayerra jara tader mentally challenged bachchatike chesta korchen societyr songe miliye dite antorik bhabe tader sobbaike amar congratulations... it is a challenge they r winning every day.... durbhagyo bosoto amar sei takao nei professional qualifiacation o nei eder jonye kichu korbar kintu amar bandhobike je kichu information diye take egiye jete sahajyo korchi eitai amar kache khub satisfying.
*Shampa,Sukanya,Shradhdha, Suchismita o Baishakhi-r alochana:* *Shampa:*Janina ei bishoye age alochona hoyeche ki na BB te.. karon ami ekhane relatively notun... ajker somaje emni e amra protiniyoto nana rokomer nirapotta hinotay bhugchi.. chhele meye nirbisheshe.. kintu taar oporeo amader meyeder nana rokomer sexual harassment er sommukhin hote hoi.Poth cholti stranger..dokandar..hotel er beyara..barir chakor..school ba tution er sir.. para r dada ba protibeshir chele,office er collegue..boss..boy friend, swami..emon ki nijer dada ba baba..kaar modhye j kkhon sei poshu jege othe jaar shikaar hote paare 0-90 je kono boyeser meye ba mohila(aj kal to 3/4 maser sishu theke 80urdho mohila kaukei baad deoa hoyna!!).. roj e newspaper e erokom nana ghotona chapa hote thake,abar erokom onek sotti chapar okhore prokash paoar soubhagyo(na durbhagyo seta debatable) paay na! Eso ei thread e amra amader byaktigoto ba sona ba dekha ghotona share kore... tate nijera halka o hote parbo r share kore enlightened o hote parbo.. topic ta ektu bitorkito kintu relevent o bote taai sobai interest nile bhalo lagbe. <http://www.orkut.com/Profile.aspx?uid=5122097717444516769> shuru ta ami e korchi.. ekta sona ghotona share kore.. sona bole golpo bhebo na.. jaar opor diye ghoteche ami nije taar sathe kotha bolechi.. tar nijer mukhe sob sunechi.. tai nichok sona golpo kotha noi... Ami tokhon calcutta university theke sociology te MA korchi. Part 2te amader ekta field report korte hoy.. sebar amra thik korechilam "liluah home" er inmates der opor report toiri korbo. interest besi amar chilo tai dayiotto o sob amar ghare chilo.. jaihok prochur kathkhor puriye permission jogar kore nirdisto din e home e poucholam. ami jantam amader interview schedule, questionaire sob bhalomoto scrutiny kora hobe, tai sei moto preperation niye gechilam..super er songe kotha bole jokhon raji koralam. amader ekti room deoa holo..ebong home authority beche beche meye pathate laglen.. amar kache prothom j meyeti elo bochor 10-12 boyes hobe-se boba... kichutei communicate korte parchina.. tokhon home er counsellor bhodro mohilar kach theke help nilam.. jante parlam.. meyeti nijer bidhoba ma r mama-mami'r sathe bardhaman er kache kono gram e thakto.. mama bardhaman e ekti barite taake thaka khaoar kaj e dite niye jachilo.. bardhaman station e se somehow hariye jaay.. taar por exactly taar sathe ki hoy seta khanikta rohosyo..clinicl test e rape dhora poreni kintu mollest kora hoyechilo tar proman paoa geche..ghotona jaai ghote thakuk taar impact etotaai besi chilo sei sishu moner opor j meyeti tar kotha bolar shokti haray... Ei holo amader somaj.. jekhane ekti 10/12 bochorer meye o rehai paay na... amader oi project er interview session j kodin cholechilo.. sei koidin raate sute partam na... chokh bondho korlei chokher samne meyegulir nishpap mukh bheshe uthto r oder kator shor sunte partam.. mone hoto o'r opor diye jeta ghoteche seta jeno amar oporeo ghotche.. aro kichu erokom e ghotonar kotha tomader bolbo... r tomader kach thekeo sonar opekhay roilam.. <http://www.orkut.com/Profile.aspx?uid=4086056260374189977> *Suchismita: *Shampa,tomar kahini pore nirbaak hoye gelaam. obosso e r notun ki! roj i koto ghoTe cholechhe taar khobor o raakhi naa aamraa.achchhaa, liluah home somporke ektu bolo suni... kemon bhabe okhane raakhaa hoy ei sob meyeder? eraa keu somaajer mul srote phire jete paare?Ei home gulo tey meye ra koto ta nirapad ? <http://www.orkut.com/Profile.aspx?uid=5122097717444516769> *Shampa:*shuchismita r sukanya dujan kei janai.. ei home gulor condition motei bhalo na.. amra jokhon jai.. ami khub jor diyechilam kitchen dekhar jonno dekhte deoa hoyni... inmates der k tala bondho kore atke rakha hoi... aro ache... manosik bhabe sustho r osustho sob rokom inmates der e kokhono eksatei rekhe deoa hoy... r tachara male staff der pasobokotar shiakar hoy era akchhar.. <http://www.orkut.com/Profile.aspx?uid=5122097717444516769>amader schedule e ekta question chilo j ekhane tomar "k k bondhu ache.. bondhu der songe ki ki koro.. " khub e nirbhejal prosno, amar bissas chilo erokom nirbhejal prosner madhyomei amra onek sotti (jeta lokano sokoler kach theke) jante parbo.. to lokhho korhilam j sobar respondent rai ei prosno gulo eriye jachhilo.. dudin erokom ghotona ghotay amar kemon sondeho hoy.. tokhon oder jini counselling koren sei bhodro mohila k jigesh korlam.. r jeta jante parlam seta sune obaak hoye gelam,ora bondhu kora bolte homo sexuality k bojhe.. tai kauke bondhu bollei se bole ami bondhu korina.. ba o' abar bondhu noi! asole se mean korte chay j se homosexual noy..ei home gulo te onek somoy e purono (ebong homosexual) inmates der dwarao ekhankar niriho inmates ra sexual abuse er shikaar hoy... <http://www.orkut.com/Profile.aspx?uid=2851644776964986169>** *Shradhdha:* Shampa, bhalo thread. age Ranita ei dhoroner alochonae khub bhalo information dito. Khub-i important ar valid subject eta. Amra jara shomajer motamuti uportolar manush , tara ek bhabe kom beshi abused hoi. Kintu tumi je meyetir katha bolechhe, e dhoroner oshohae gorib meyera (ajkal chhelera-o) anek beshi nirjatito hoe shomaje.Tomar moto amio MA dissertation korbar shomoy ebong pore kormoshutrtre anekbar ei dhoroner bachhader home-e giyechhi, ebong khub kachh theke ei shob abused bachhader dekhechhi.Shottyi-i ei shob meye-der amader shomaj bodhhoe aj-o manush bole swikar-i kore na *Shampa:*shraddha di sudhu ei meyera keno?? ajker somaje amader moto opor tolar so educated ebong enlightened meyerai ba ghore baire kotota nirapod??? aj theke pray bochoer 10 age "asian age" e bina ramani'r private column e ekti meye tar nijer baba'r dwara abused hoar ghotona janiyechilo.. sei meyeti kintu amader moto family'r e chilo... *Sukanya:*satyyi egulo jakhon bhabi takhon mon e hoi cheley hoye jonmaley bhalo hoto... amar meye r ekhon 7 yrs... jaa dinkaal porchhey...shobshomoy cokhey chokhey rakhtey hoi... aar bachha der abuse kora toh khub easy... ami onekdin agey emon ekta ghotona shuneychhilam jey ekta bachha meye taar barir khub kacheyr loke er hath thekeo rahai paay ni... ki aar bolbo... eder manush naa boley janoar bolai bhalo.. *Baishakhi:*Ami ei topic ta jakhan pratham chokhe porlo.. bhebecchilam kicchu likhbo na,but then I thought why not!!!!Bharatbarshe to meyera janmo lagna thekei nirapad noy!!! Ar ei pratha ke chalu kore giyecchilen janina, kintu surprisingly prachur follower peyecchilen onar ei ku-shangskar mene nebar jonne, Ar tarpore aaj bacchar bacchar dhore cholcche ei niye pratibaad… tao koto meyeder janmer agei kinba pore mukti diye dew ahoyTar nana karon… 1. meyera burden family'r opor, biyer kharcha jogabo ki kore 2. meyera to ar bangsha rakkha korena… seta to cchelerai korbe… dwip jalabe tara!!! Ar surprisingly aajker shikkhito samajeo ei pratha ta chalu acche…. !!!! and they call it SOCIAL CUSTOM!!! majhe majhe mone mone boli eder barite meyei jano janmay… and then I thinl "No, this people do not deserve a GIRL" amra jei maa ke pujo kori, sei meye kei tuccho kore jara… they really don't deserve a GIRL CHILD <http://www.orkut.com/Profile.aspx?uid=5122097717444516769> *Shampa:b*halo bolecho baishakhi, sotti e ajo je rate e girl fetus abortion(aMI JODIO EKE KILLING BOLI) chole seta bhable nijeder oporei ghenna hoi,meyeder opor ei j eto sexual abuse hochhe setar ekta indirect reason to etao... ebhabei to male female ratio ta aro kharap hoye jache....jodio jara poshu tader nijer pashobikota dekhanor jonno kono karoner dorkar pore na...still male female ratio er ei imbalance ta o to khanikta dayi hoye pore... *Baishakhi:*Shampa,ekta mansuher cchele ba meyer prati preference thakte pare.. hotei pare je amar cchoto meyeder khubb halo lage... ar amar kono ek bandhabi abar baby boy chay... thats a different issue... but when people say (shikkhito upto some extend).. we want a boy becasue he will be our KANDARI, bangsha rakkha korta...sounds just so poor!!ar takhankar dine ebhabei shuru hoyecchilo naari nirjatan.. ja tumi bolccho... ar seta aste aste parinoto hoyecche abortion e... or KILLING-e... India'r bibhinno sahar graame ekhono koto koto meye mere fela hoy... bhrun theke shuru kore boyeshka nari.,sabai dekhte gele ek jinisheri shikar, tar opor abar jakhan kono meye gola bariye ei BANGSHA rakhar kotha bole.. takhan ami bhabi je... meyetar nijer atto shamman kothay ar kotota!!!!! *Shampa:*khoob thik kotha bolecho @baisakhi amra meyerai nijeder proti justice korte parina.. nijeder sommaner proti...nije meye hoye onno ekti meyer opor otyachar hote sudhu j deekhi tai na.. otyachar kori o bote... *Jhum:*ei thread ta kono vabe miss kore giyechilam. aj baishakhir kothai dekhte giye pelam. sotti khubi guruttopurno thread eti. shampa emn 1ti thread kholar jonne tomai dhonnobad.Bes onek kichu alochona hoye geche ei thread tite. shampar dewa lilua homer ghotonatio porlam khub mon diye.Liluha home somporke sotti erom onek ghotona sunechi ebong kagojeo kichu beriyechilo sesob porechi er age. tai kothagulo sotti vison bissasjogya. okhane jesob meyeder rakha hoi tader sotti sekhane konorokom nirapotta thakena. sekhane joto tuku sunechi meyera protiniyoto nanavebe nirjatito hoi. kintu ei niye kothao konorokom alochona ba eder obostha poriborton korar kono prochestao lokkho kora jaina.Amader somaje meyeder nirapottahinota protiti muhurte chokhe pore. pothe ghate ghore baire kothao meyera nirapod noi. emonki 1ti konya sontaner tar matri gorveo nirapod noi. sekhaneo amader somajer kichu manus nari ke etotuku doya dekhaina. konya bhrun keo tara nirdhidhai khun kore dei.Amar jokho baccha hoyechilo jano ami kintu cheyechilam amar putro hok. atke uthona. ha meye hisabe ei somaje theke amar mone hoyechilo amar putroi hok. kenoki thik sukanyar moto amar mone hoto jodi amar meye hoi proti ti muhurte take amake somajer bikrito manuser theke rokkha kore cholte hobe. jekono muhurte amar sontan bikrito lalosar swikar hote pare. tai mone hoyechilo amar putro holei valo. jodio ekhon putro sontano kono motei surokkhito noi chotto baccha chelerao ekhon proti muhurte jekono bikrito manosikotar kamonar swikar hote pare se voi o sob somoi royeche. tobe meye hole bodhoi chinta ta aro bohulangse bere jai. meyer mader ami amar make dekhechi amader dui bon ke kivabe buke kore agle rekhechen. school theke firte 2 minute deri hole mayer chokhe mukhe utkontha chokhe poreche. train e kore kolkatai gele ma janlai ha kore dariye thakten meye kokhon firbe. tokhon to r eto mobile chilona tai khobor pabaro kono rasta chilona. tai utkonthatei katate hoto make proti muhurto. <http://www.orkut.com/Profile.aspx?uid=6851890249475415845> continued... tai mone hoyechilo amar chele hole hoito amar mayer moto ei utkontha amake sojjho korte hobena. jodio seta vul dharona cheleder niyeo ajke mayeder eki utkontha hoi. jaihok seta onno prosongo. kintu baishakhi jeta boleche osikkhito manus chere dilam jokhon tothakothito sikkhito manusder mukhe sona jai amar chele chai amar bongsorokkha korbe boler seti jokhon kono nari kontho theke uccharito hoi tokhon sotti atke uthe vabte hoi tahole amader somaje ki narirai narider pichiye niye choleche nariria ki somaj ke egote badha dicche. proshno thekei jai. <http://www.orkut.com/Profile.aspx?uid=14588861266775684970>** ** *Baishakhi: *Are tomra to just shune atke uthccho,ar ekta couple ke chokher samne dekhecchi eidhoroner motamot prakash korte!!! how pathetic!!!!sedin party te amra 4 te couple puro haaaa hoye giyecchilam ei kotha sune!!!! *Shampa:*Thanx,Jhum tomar ei thread ta bhalo lagar jonne r nijoswo motamot deoar jonn,tobe ki jano.. amar mone hoi j meyeder nirapotta nei eta na bhebe amader bodhoy uchit ajker somaje ki chele ki meye take saririk o manosik bhabe etyotai strong toiri kora j somajer manush rupe j poshu ra lukiye ache tader sathe lorte paare,r Liluah home er ba ei dhoroner home gulo somporke boli.. j okhane j kichu e bhalo hoina taao na... okhane meyeder nana rokomer training o deoa hoy... amra home gulo k dosh dichhi kintu amra somajer socheton nagorik hisebe koto ta SOCHETONOTA dekhai bolte paro?? amra pari ei meyedr amader majhe somajer mul srote firiye ante?? oi home tobu to ora beche achhe nijeder jogote? aj r ekti meyer kotha boli tomader tahole amar boktobyo ta bujhte subidhe hobe...
ei meyeti k ami jokhon interview korte nei tokhon home oder jini counsellor tini amar o'r puro case history diyechilen.. atke uthechilam sune... meye ti k jokhon home e ana hoi se chilo manosik bharsamyo hin.. hospital theke ase se.. home e suru suru te se m'ens" er somoy sara gaye menstrual blood mekhe nito... atke uthle??? puro ta sono tahole.. suru theke boli... meyeti bonga line er kono gram e thakto.. tar ma..hain tar *nijer ma* r tar jamai babu mile taake beche diyechilo delhi te ekti "brothel e" meyetir boyes tokhon 14yrs.. sekhane se eto kanna kati korto j taake samlate na pere r khanikta birokto hoye ebong khanikta doya korei sei brothel er ek masi e take kolkata'r train e tule dey... howrah station e poucheche rate se to bhebe kulkinara pache na kothay jaabe... station theke beriyechilo.. sekhane ekdol cheler haate gang raped hoy bivotsyo bhabe... porer din sokale kono ek bhodrolok doya (ajker juge manobikota ta doya e hoye dariyeche..)kore taake hospitale pouche dey,Meyetir psycho analysis kore dekha gechilo j rape e r oi rokom borborochito otyachar e jehetu taar prochur blood loss hoyechilo tai se even menstrual blood o sorir theke berote dite chaito na.. gaye mekhe bose thakto menstrual blood,othocho sei meye ti k ami jokhon interview korechi.. se dibyi sochhonde kotha boleche amar songe... nijer poribaarer proti khobh janiyeche.. koto golpo koreche... eta sombhob hoyeche oi home er kichu subho budhhi somponno staff er jotno r sahochorjei.Tai sob tai kharap seta bhaba thik naulte nije bhebe jodi dekhi.. amrai hoyto oke ei somaje sadharoner modhye thakle more jete badhyo kortam... o'r nijer ma e ki koreche bolo??jano o home er super kei ma bole tai.. nijer ma'r kache jeta paini seta okhane peyeche too.,kajei bhabte hobe amader... amra koto ta ki korchi.. khali kheye pore r nijer jonne nijer poribar er jonne beche thaka e ki beche thaka?????? tahole *manush(maan+"hush") *hoye labh ki holo bolo to?
