MENTALLY CHALLENGED - a discussion

A conversation between Debarati, Baishakhi and Devlinadi

*Debarati...*

Banglar bodhura, ami ekta unique offer peyechi amar meyer schooler chair person er kach theke,tinio amader boyewsee i hoben graduation /postgraduation US theke kore ese ekhon ekjon sofol enterpreneuer, maa ebong dayeetoshil meyer bhumika palon korecholechen.. ghotona chokre taar songe amar bes bondhutto hoye jay. gotokaal dekhe hotei eta seta bolbar por she wanted to know what can we do abt mentally retarded children..uni chaichen ekta school khulte ei compounder modhyei for these children ete uni children with lower iq theke severely mentally retarded der include korte chaichen. tomra ki keu ei bishoye kaaj korecho? baa kichu jano? parle please amake janio. <http://www.orkut.com/Profile.aspx?uid=14588861266775684970>

*Baishakhi*

Hi Debarati..
Ami Germany thaka kaleen erokom ekti shongsthar shonge jorito cchilam... shoptahe ekdin ami erokom ekti school e voluntary kaaj kortam... tokhon anek jenecchi ar sikhecchi.... tomar bandhobi shotti je koto dayittoshil nijer jibon abong samaj er prati.. seta onar chintadhara dekhei bojha jay...

EU countries e eidharaner shongshtan chalate gele founder abong prattekti member ke CHILD MAINTAINING course korte hoy, tacchara keu chakri payna... ar ei course gulo sikhiye dey je koto dhairjo dorkar baccha der shonge samay katabar jonne.. bisesh kore Metally retarded children... tader jogot onno, tara boro hoye giyeo sishu, tader kothay ktohay rege jawa... heshe oth, kinba kokhono kokhono agressive howa, shabi sabhabik. Aar amader jonne khub kothin deal kora... karon shab mahila hoyto parben na maniye cholte.. ar erokom paristhitite rege giye kaan mole dewa ba maar dhor kora khub ekta oshabhabik noy... tai bolcchi... tomar bondhur icche jano puron hoy.. kintu uni child mentor recruit korar samay jano ottadhik beshi sacheton thaken... karon interview r samay sabai doyar korun sagar seje ashe.. kintu bastabik bhabe onnorokom...
ar ei dhoroner bacchara needs more protection and love than anybody else... !!!

thanks a lot baishakhi.. anek kichu jante parlam. ami onake egulo bolbo...infact ei schoolta ekhankar best school aar ei school ta sthapon korechilen onar baba who was a famous person in tirunelveli sei dik theke dekhte gele uni nischoi best counsellorder songei kotha bolte parben asha korchi. <http://www.orkut.com/Profile.aspx?uid=14800088419198627056>

*Devlina di*

Debarati Anek bacchader thik moton 'Mental Retardation' diagnosis kora hoy na. Topic ta birat o anek different facets e dekhte hoy. Ami just teente aspect bolte chai. ekhane ei dutu aspecter bishoy aneke BB te technical gyan ditey parben. 1. Proper diagnosis. Eta bhalo, well qualified professional der hatey kora uchit. This is expensive karon kichhu test korano dorkar. Blood test (Thyroid , Aminoacid, Phenylketonuria, Chromosome analysis ityadi), EEG (Brain wave tracings- jate epilepsy-ba mirgi rog dhora porey) aar ta chhara bhalo Physical Examination ebong Psychometric testing kora dorka. Bhalo diagnosis na holey shathik treatment o teacher der kaaj korano ta 'ek pa egono aar du pa pechhano'. Taka'r shomoshya ta i shob cheye beshi problem. Kintu e ta jana uchit, je anek teaching hospitals e nominal charge e testing korano jaay. Ta chhara anek NGO ra e kaaj cheshta korchhe.

2.Debarati, je likhechho, compound e aar ekta school er katha (thik bujhlam ki?) sheta'r bishoy ekta comment. Mentally retarded baccha der o anek degrees of retardation thake. Khub beshi severe na holey, oder 'main stream' class e boshiye porano ta best. Ora 'normal' chhele meyeder kachh theke best shekhe. Aar jara 'normal' tara o shekhe how to adjust and live with the less fortunate.

3. Ma, Baba, family ebong society puro support dorkar. Taka poysha ta kintu boro byapar na. Ami nije dekhechhi anek dhoni manush tader mentally challenged chhele meyeder tyag kore dey. Abar anek gorib poribar tader nijer santan bole ja parey, tai bhaga bhagi korey tader nijeder mentally challenged santan ke jotno korey.

BB'r member der kachh theke comment dekhte chaichhi. Debarati, tumi emon shomoy e important topic ta launch korle, jokhon shobai onno dikey byasto. Sheta ashwabhabik na, je anek er chokhe porey ni (ami o aaj obdi dekhi ni). Asha korchhi, e topic er discussion ta khub bhalo rokom hobe, ebong aneke nijeder experience, NGO'r porichoy etc ditey egiye aashbe.

*Debarati*

'A Society is judged by how it treats its most vulnerable members' thankd a lot devlina di, janina amar bondhuti kotodur egote parben kintu ei information ..je oder ek songei class korte deoa hok .. nischoi janabo.jokhono i ei rokom kono bachchake dekhi bhagoban ke hajar bar dhanyobaad di je amar bachcha sustho hoye jonmeche ... kintu emon anekei achen dekhechi eirokom bachchader dekhle ulte tader baba mayer kache giye hajarta prosno kore onader embarass korbar chesta koren.ei dhoroiner bachcha boro kora je ki kothin kaaj ei ta bes bhaloi bujhte oarchi .. sei baba mayerra jara tader mentally challenged bachchatike chesta korchen societyr songe miliye dite antorik bhabe tader sobbaike amar congratulations... it is a challenge they r winning every day.... durbhagyo bosoto amar sei takao nei professional qualifiacation o nei eder jonye kichu korbar kintu amar bandhobike je kichu information diye take egiye jete sahajyo korchi eitai amar kache khub satisfying.

Ajker somaje kotota nirapod achi amra meyera??

*Shampa,Sukanya,Shradhdha, Suchismita o Baishakhi-r alochana:*

*Shampa:*Janina ei bishoye age alochona hoyeche ki na BB te.. karon ami ekhane relatively notun... ajker somaje emni e amra protiniyoto nana rokomer nirapotta hinotay bhugchi.. chhele meye nirbisheshe.. kintu taar oporeo amader meyeder nana rokomer sexual harassment er sommukhin hote hoi.Poth cholti stranger..dokandar..hotel er beyara..barir chakor..school ba tution er sir.. para r dada ba protibeshir chele,office er collegue..boss..boy friend, swami..emon ki nijer dada ba baba..kaar modhye j kkhon sei poshu jege othe jaar shikaar hote paare 0-90 je kono boyeser meye ba mohila(aj kal to 3/4 maser sishu theke 80urdho mohila kaukei baad deoa hoyna!!).. roj e newspaper e erokom nana ghotona chapa hote thake,abar erokom onek sotti chapar okhore prokash paoar soubhagyo(na durbhagyo seta debatable) paay na! Eso ei thread e amra amader byaktigoto ba sona ba dekha ghotona share kore... tate nijera halka o hote parbo r share kore enlightened o hote parbo.. topic ta ektu bitorkito kintu relevent o bote taai sobai interest nile bhalo lagbe.

<http://www.orkut.com/Profile.aspx?uid=5122097717444516769> shuru ta ami e korchi.. ekta sona ghotona share kore.. sona bole golpo bhebo na.. jaar opor diye ghoteche ami nije taar sathe kotha bolechi.. tar nijer mukhe sob sunechi.. tai nichok sona golpo kotha noi... Ami tokhon calcutta university theke sociology te MA korchi. Part 2te amader ekta field report korte hoy.. sebar amra thik korechilam "liluah home" er inmates der opor report toiri korbo. interest besi amar chilo tai dayiotto o sob amar ghare chilo.. jaihok prochur kathkhor puriye permission jogar kore nirdisto din e home e poucholam. ami jantam amader interview schedule, questionaire sob bhalomoto scrutiny kora hobe, tai sei moto preperation niye gechilam..super er songe kotha bole jokhon raji koralam. amader ekti room deoa holo..ebong home authority beche beche meye pathate laglen.. amar kache prothom j meyeti elo bochor 10-12 boyes hobe-se boba... kichutei communicate korte parchina.. tokhon home er counsellor bhodro mohilar kach theke help nilam.. jante parlam.. meyeti nijer bidhoba ma r mama-mami'r sathe bardhaman er kache kono gram e thakto.. mama bardhaman e ekti barite taake thaka khaoar kaj e dite niye jachilo.. bardhaman station e se somehow hariye jaay.. taar por exactly taar sathe ki hoy seta khanikta rohosyo..clinicl test e rape dhora poreni kintu mollest kora hoyechilo tar proman paoa geche..ghotona jaai ghote thakuk taar impact etotaai besi chilo sei sishu moner opor j meyeti tar kotha bolar shokti haray... Ei holo amader somaj.. jekhane ekti 10/12 bochorer meye o rehai paay na... amader oi project er interview session j kodin cholechilo.. sei koidin raate sute partam na... chokh bondho korlei chokher samne meyegulir nishpap mukh bheshe uthto r oder kator shor sunte partam.. mone hoto o'r opor diye jeta ghoteche seta jeno amar oporeo ghotche.. aro kichu erokom e ghotonar kotha tomader bolbo... r tomader kach thekeo sonar opekhay roilam..

<http://www.orkut.com/Profile.aspx?uid=4086056260374189977> *Suchismita: *Shampa,tomar kahini pore nirbaak hoye gelaam. obosso e r notun ki! roj i koto ghoTe cholechhe taar khobor o raakhi naa aamraa.achchhaa, liluah home somporke ektu bolo suni... kemon bhabe okhane raakhaa hoy ei sob meyeder? eraa keu somaajer mul srote phire jete paare?Ei home gulo tey meye ra koto ta nirapad ?

<http://www.orkut.com/Profile.aspx?uid=5122097717444516769> *Shampa:*shuchismita r sukanya dujan kei janai.. ei home gulor condition motei bhalo na.. amra jokhon jai.. ami khub jor diyechilam kitchen dekhar jonno dekhte deoa hoyni... inmates der k tala bondho kore atke rakha hoi... aro ache... manosik bhabe sustho r osustho sob rokom inmates der e kokhono eksatei rekhe deoa hoy... r tachara male staff der pasobokotar shiakar hoy era akchhar..

<http://www.orkut.com/Profile.aspx?uid=5122097717444516769>amader schedule e ekta question chilo j ekhane tomar "k k bondhu ache.. bondhu der songe ki ki koro.. " khub e nirbhejal prosno, amar bissas chilo erokom nirbhejal prosner madhyomei amra onek sotti (jeta lokano sokoler kach theke) jante parbo.. to lokhho korhilam j sobar respondent rai ei prosno gulo eriye jachhilo.. dudin erokom ghotona ghotay amar kemon sondeho hoy.. tokhon oder jini counselling koren sei bhodro mohila k jigesh korlam.. r jeta jante parlam seta sune obaak hoye gelam,ora bondhu kora bolte homo sexuality k bojhe.. tai kauke bondhu bollei se bole ami bondhu korina.. ba o' abar bondhu noi! asole se mean korte chay j se homosexual noy..ei home gulo te onek somoy e purono (ebong homosexual) inmates der dwarao ekhankar niriho inmates ra sexual abuse er shikaar hoy...

<http://www.orkut.com/Profile.aspx?uid=2851644776964986169>** *Shradhdha:* Shampa, bhalo thread. age Ranita ei dhoroner alochonae khub bhalo information dito. Khub-i important ar valid subject eta. Amra jara shomajer motamuti uportolar manush , tara ek bhabe kom beshi abused hoi. Kintu tumi je meyetir katha bolechhe, e dhoroner oshohae gorib meyera (ajkal chhelera-o) anek beshi nirjatito hoe shomaje.Tomar moto amio MA dissertation korbar shomoy ebong pore kormoshutrtre anekbar ei dhoroner bachhader home-e giyechhi, ebong khub kachh theke ei shob abused bachhader dekhechhi.Shottyi-i ei shob meye-der amader shomaj bodhhoe aj-o manush bole swikar-i kore na

*Shampa:*shraddha di sudhu ei meyera keno?? ajker somaje amader moto opor tolar so educated ebong enlightened meyerai ba ghore baire kotota nirapod??? aj theke pray bochoer 10 age "asian age" e bina ramani'r private column e ekti meye tar nijer baba'r dwara abused hoar ghotona janiyechilo.. sei meyeti kintu amader moto family'r e chilo...

*Sukanya:*satyyi egulo jakhon bhabi takhon mon e hoi cheley hoye jonmaley bhalo hoto... amar meye r ekhon 7 yrs... jaa dinkaal porchhey...shobshomoy cokhey chokhey rakhtey hoi... aar bachha der abuse kora toh khub easy... ami onekdin agey emon ekta ghotona shuneychhilam jey ekta bachha meye taar barir khub kacheyr loke er hath thekeo rahai paay ni... ki aar bolbo... eder manush naa boley janoar bolai bhalo.. *Baishakhi:*Ami ei topic ta jakhan pratham chokhe porlo.. bhebecchilam kicchu likhbo na,but then I thought why not!!!!Bharatbarshe to meyera janmo lagna thekei nirapad noy!!! Ar ei pratha ke chalu kore giyecchilen janina, kintu surprisingly prachur follower peyecchilen onar ei ku-shangskar mene nebar jonne, Ar tarpore aaj bacchar bacchar dhore cholcche ei niye pratibaad… tao koto meyeder janmer agei kinba pore mukti diye dew ahoyTar nana karon…

1. meyera burden family'r opor, biyer kharcha jogabo ki kore 2. meyera to ar bangsha rakkha korena… seta to cchelerai korbe… dwip jalabe tara!!! Ar surprisingly aajker shikkhito samajeo ei pratha ta chalu acche…. !!!! and they call it SOCIAL CUSTOM!!! majhe majhe mone mone boli eder barite meyei jano janmay… and then I thinl "No, this people do not deserve a GIRL" amra jei maa ke pujo kori, sei meye kei tuccho kore jara… they really don't deserve a GIRL CHILD

<http://www.orkut.com/Profile.aspx?uid=5122097717444516769> *Shampa:b*halo bolecho baishakhi, sotti e ajo je rate e girl fetus abortion(aMI JODIO EKE KILLING BOLI) chole seta bhable nijeder oporei ghenna hoi,meyeder opor ei j eto sexual abuse hochhe setar ekta indirect reason to etao... ebhabei to male female ratio ta aro kharap hoye jache....jodio jara poshu tader nijer pashobikota dekhanor jonno kono karoner dorkar pore na...still male female ratio er ei imbalance ta o to khanikta dayi hoye pore...

*Baishakhi:*Shampa,ekta mansuher cchele ba meyer prati preference thakte pare.. hotei pare je amar cchoto meyeder khubb halo lage... ar amar kono ek bandhabi abar baby boy chay... thats a different issue... but when people say (shikkhito upto some extend).. we want a boy becasue he will be our KANDARI, bangsha rakkha korta...sounds just so poor!!ar takhankar dine ebhabei shuru hoyecchilo naari nirjatan.. ja tumi bolccho... ar seta aste aste parinoto hoyecche abortion e... or KILLING-e... India'r bibhinno sahar graame ekhono koto koto meye mere fela hoy... bhrun theke shuru kore boyeshka nari.,sabai dekhte gele ek jinisheri shikar, tar opor abar jakhan kono meye gola bariye ei BANGSHA rakhar kotha bole.. takhan ami bhabi je... meyetar nijer atto shamman kothay ar kotota!!!!!

*Shampa:*khoob thik kotha bolecho @baisakhi amra meyerai nijeder proti justice korte parina.. nijeder sommaner proti...nije meye hoye onno ekti meyer opor otyachar hote sudhu j deekhi tai na.. otyachar kori o bote... *Jhum:*ei thread ta kono vabe miss kore giyechilam. aj baishakhir kothai dekhte giye pelam. sotti khubi guruttopurno thread eti. shampa emn 1ti thread kholar jonne tomai dhonnobad.Bes onek kichu alochona hoye geche ei thread tite. shampar dewa lilua homer ghotonatio porlam khub mon diye.Liluha home somporke sotti erom onek ghotona sunechi ebong kagojeo kichu beriyechilo sesob porechi er age. tai kothagulo sotti vison bissasjogya. okhane jesob meyeder rakha hoi tader sotti sekhane konorokom nirapotta thakena. sekhane joto tuku sunechi meyera protiniyoto nanavebe nirjatito hoi. kintu ei niye kothao konorokom alochona ba eder obostha poriborton korar kono prochestao lokkho kora jaina.Amader somaje meyeder nirapottahinota protiti muhurte chokhe pore. pothe ghate ghore baire kothao meyera nirapod noi. emonki 1ti konya sontaner tar matri gorveo nirapod noi. sekhaneo amader somajer kichu manus nari ke etotuku doya dekhaina. konya bhrun keo tara nirdhidhai khun kore dei.Amar jokho baccha hoyechilo jano ami kintu cheyechilam amar putro hok. atke uthona. ha meye hisabe ei somaje theke amar mone hoyechilo amar putroi hok. kenoki thik sukanyar moto amar mone hoto jodi amar meye hoi proti ti muhurte take amake somajer bikrito manuser theke rokkha kore cholte hobe. jekono muhurte amar sontan bikrito lalosar swikar hote pare. tai mone hoyechilo amar putro holei valo. jodio ekhon putro sontano kono motei surokkhito noi chotto baccha chelerao ekhon proti muhurte jekono bikrito manosikotar kamonar swikar hote pare se voi o sob somoi royeche. tobe meye hole bodhoi chinta ta aro bohulangse bere jai. meyer mader ami amar make dekhechi amader dui bon ke kivabe buke kore agle rekhechen. school theke firte 2 minute deri hole mayer chokhe mukhe utkontha chokhe poreche. train e kore kolkatai gele ma janlai ha kore dariye thakten meye kokhon firbe. tokhon to r eto mobile chilona tai khobor pabaro kono rasta chilona. tai utkonthatei katate hoto make proti muhurto.

<http://www.orkut.com/Profile.aspx?uid=6851890249475415845> continued... tai mone hoyechilo amar chele hole hoito amar mayer moto ei utkontha amake sojjho korte hobena. jodio seta vul dharona cheleder niyeo ajke mayeder eki utkontha hoi. jaihok seta onno prosongo. kintu baishakhi jeta boleche osikkhito manus chere dilam jokhon tothakothito sikkhito manusder mukhe sona jai amar chele chai amar bongsorokkha korbe boler seti jokhon kono nari kontho theke uccharito hoi tokhon sotti atke uthe vabte hoi tahole amader somaje ki narirai narider pichiye niye choleche nariria ki somaj ke egote badha dicche. proshno thekei jai.

<http://www.orkut.com/Profile.aspx?uid=14588861266775684970>** ** *Baishakhi: *Are tomra to just shune atke uthccho,ar ekta couple ke chokher samne dekhecchi eidhoroner motamot prakash korte!!! how pathetic!!!!sedin party te amra 4 te couple puro haaaa hoye giyecchilam ei kotha sune!!!! *Shampa:*Thanx,Jhum tomar ei thread ta bhalo lagar jonne r nijoswo motamot deoar jonn,tobe ki jano.. amar mone hoi j meyeder nirapotta nei eta na bhebe amader bodhoy uchit ajker somaje ki chele ki meye take saririk o manosik bhabe etyotai strong toiri kora j somajer manush rupe j poshu ra lukiye ache tader sathe lorte paare,r Liluah home er ba ei dhoroner home gulo somporke boli.. j okhane j kichu e bhalo hoina taao na... okhane meyeder nana rokomer training o deoa hoy... amra home gulo k dosh dichhi kintu amra somajer socheton nagorik hisebe koto ta SOCHETONOTA dekhai bolte paro?? amra pari ei meyedr amader majhe somajer mul srote firiye ante?? oi home tobu to ora beche achhe nijeder jogote?

aj r ekti meyer kotha boli tomader tahole amar boktobyo ta bujhte subidhe hobe...
ei meyeti k ami jokhon interview korte nei tokhon home oder jini counsellor tini amar o'r puro case history diyechilen.. atke uthechilam sune... meye ti k jokhon home e ana hoi se chilo manosik bharsamyo hin.. hospital theke ase se.. home e suru suru te se m'ens" er somoy sara gaye menstrual blood mekhe nito... atke uthle??? puro ta sono tahole.. suru theke boli... meyeti bonga line er kono gram e thakto.. tar ma..hain tar *nijer ma* r tar jamai babu mile taake beche diyechilo delhi te ekti "brothel e" meyetir boyes tokhon 14yrs.. sekhane se eto kanna kati korto j taake samlate na pere r khanikta birokto hoye ebong khanikta doya korei sei brothel er ek masi e take kolkata'r train e tule dey... howrah station e poucheche rate se to bhebe kulkinara pache na kothay jaabe... station theke beriyechilo.. sekhane ekdol cheler haate gang raped hoy bivotsyo bhabe... porer din sokale kono ek bhodrolok doya (ajker juge manobikota ta doya e hoye dariyeche..)kore taake hospitale pouche dey,Meyetir psycho analysis kore dekha gechilo j rape e r oi rokom borborochito otyachar e jehetu taar prochur blood loss hoyechilo tai se even menstrual blood o sorir theke berote dite chaito na.. gaye mekhe bose thakto menstrual blood,othocho sei meye ti k ami jokhon interview korechi.. se dibyi sochhonde kotha boleche amar songe... nijer poribaarer proti khobh janiyeche.. koto golpo koreche... eta sombhob hoyeche oi home er kichu subho budhhi somponno staff er jotno r sahochorjei.Tai sob tai kharap seta bhaba thik naulte nije bhebe jodi dekhi.. amrai hoyto oke ei somaje sadharoner modhye thakle more jete badhyo kortam... o'r nijer ma e ki koreche bolo??jano o home er super kei ma bole tai.. nijer ma'r kache jeta paini seta okhane peyeche too.,kajei bhabte hobe amader... amra koto ta ki korchi.. khali kheye pore r nijer jonne nijer poribar er jonne beche thaka e ki beche thaka?????? tahole *manush(maan+"hush") *hoye labh ki holo bolo to?

THE DARK SIDE OF THE GLAMOUR WORLD

JHUM: Aj tv te 1 ta news dekhlam ,dekhe monta khub var hoe gelo. alor pichon dikta je ondhokari thake khobor ta dekhe setai sobar age mone holo. rupoli pordar jhokmokanir pichone je koto rokom ondhokar cheye ache seta dekhlam. 1 jon model je bes bikkyato chilo emon ki se fashion designer o chilo hotat drugs er kobole pore aj somosto somaj poribar theke bitarito. tar poribaro take prottyakhan koreche aj se pothe pothe vikkha kore beracche. oi model naki ek somoi miss universe susmita sen er songeo ramp e modeling koreche r aj madok sebon take ei sochonio obosthai ene dar korieche. amra sobai dur theke alor jholmolani dekhe obak hoe cheye thaki othocho ei sob glamour jogote koto kichu ghote jar hoito kono khobori amra rakhina. oi meyetike dekhe aj sotti monta khubi varakranto hoe gelo. kichu din age porjonto je meye sikkhito sundor 1ti poribeser moddhe aboddho chilo ajse pothe pothe vikkha korche. sotti prithibi aj visoni kharap somoier moddhe die choleche.

MoUMITA:eirokom example...... ei muhirte mone porche Britney Spears , Paris Hiltoner katha!!

DEBARATI: sudhu model keno ekhon jara mba pore nbyo dhoni hoyeche.. mane jara khub i lower income group theke uthe ese aiswaryo aar artho dekhe tasder o chokh dhadiye geche. Majhkhane khub chal uthechilo hothat ei daarun salary peye gele save kore ma babake deoa. ami kintu emon anek ke jani jara chokmoke jiboner pechone pakka nesha khor aar credit card er jaale jorye poreche. Mukhe hoyto bole shat sottor hajar pai kintu ektu khoj nilei dekha jabe sob i ure jachche nesa baa shopping spree r doulote.

ANGIRA: Debarati, tumi topic ta ke anek beshi enriched korley, by your comment. You are very correct. Ekhun tomra jara amader parer generation ebong you have been lucky to start big should be extra carefule as to not get GLAMOUR Struck. Nijeder ke kokhono bhulo na. Nijeder eai shoubhagyo ke shundor bhabey bhobishoter janyo shundor krey guchiye chalo. tomader dekhe amar khub anondo hoi je tomra shakole bhalo thakar ekta platform (financially) peye cho. Tobey Careful! Do not slip... tread the fast track very carefully.

JHUM: Debarati ar Angiradi tomra kintu ekdom sotti kotha bolecho. Ajker generationer hathe khub olpo boyese onek taka ese geche. r oto taka hathe peye ajker chele meyera onek somoi ki korbe bujhe uthte parchena. ajkal suni aader dese call centre gulote sob olpo boesi chele meyera chakri korche. r tader hathe khub olpo boesei onek onek taka ese jacche. tara bujhtei parchena oto taka tara kon dike khorcha korbe. r er thekei oisob chele meyera onek somoi onek kharap songe pore jai. tara oisob glamour worlder chokmoke dunia te dhuke pore jekhane onek kichui kharap. ei vabe onek chele meye nijeder jibone ajkal ovisap deke anche. ei somoita sotti khub kharap ajker chele meyeder jonne. Jodi nijeke songboron na kora jai tahole ajker onek chele meyer jibone onek ondhokar neme aste pare.

DEVALINA: Drug addiction aar GHB Glamour world er bishoy aamar aar ekta observation achhe. Fashion model der goto bochhor obdi ek dhoroner shorir er gothhon dorkar chhilo. Joto lomba aar chhip chhipe, toto demand beshi; tai anek model ra khaoa daoa bhayanak bhabe komiye diye ekta abnormally patla figure rakhto. Anek shomoy 'appetite suppressant amphetamine' aar 'Phen phen (jeta ekhon banned)' kheye kheye e shob asudh er nesha'r abhyash hoye jaay. Aar oder adbhut dhoroner jiboner style e thakte giye onno anek drugs er use o shuru kore. Durbhagyojonok ekta byapar holo je, anek sponsors, fashion designers aar e rokom dhoroner lok ei meyeder (aar kichhu chheleder o) GHB ba 'date rape drug' khaiyye nijeder haat kore rakhe. Jeno era oder private 'toys'. Anand Jon er ei shomoy USA te case cholchhe, ei byapare. Bhalo modelling agency models der kaachh theke anek taka ney aar kichhuta model der protection dey. Kintu uthti model ra e rokom agency 'r taka afford korte parey na. Tai oder jibon khub dangerous. First paragraph e ami likhlam je 'goto bochhor obdi..' Er karon holo je model der ei abnormal figure er protibade Spain aar Italy te kichhu fashion show te eshi roga model der ramp e hata nishedh. Ei niye anek huloosthuloo choleychhe, kintu monay hochhe, niyom ta kromosho onno fashion capital e o arrambh hobey. Hoy to drug addiction ektu komey jabe.

SAYANTANI : Devalina di thik boleche....goto bochor ei oshudhgulir karone du maasher modhya tin jon modeler death hoi...du joner abar show chola kalin.....tokhon i ei chanchalyer shrishti hoi....ekhon BMI fixed kora hoyeche 18 e .....er kom hole the concerned model will be banned...previously it was as low as 12 13...........

shudhu modelra keno aajkaal teenagers theke majboyeshi mohilara shobai ei roga howar race e....tai tara different types of drugs er sahajyo nichche...as the easiest way ....ebong bipoder mukhe thele dichche nijeder...........

back to the news....amaar eta khubi obak laagche dekhe...meye jotoi kharap hok barir lokera or ei bipoder dine or paashe thaakbe na...oke kono rokom medical aide debe na...koto familyr sontan to drugs nei....baba mara koto koshto sojyo kore taderke saranor cheshta kore.....aar era oke raastai fele dilo..

Culture Shock-3

Saheli

Ei topic theke prithibir bibhinna pranta samparkhe anek kichhu jana jai... Ami Ukraine e ese bhashar proved er jonye anek kal ekhankar manusher sathe aporichito chhilam...tai khub eka lagto...kintu kichhu dekhe r kichhu sune ei deshtake jatotuku jenechhi tar madhye kichhu jinis amake abashyai abak korechhe....

1. Ukraine khub gorib desh bole sune esechhilam....kintu Kiev e manusher bilasitar sesh nei...ekhane 10-12 bachharer chhele meyeder satheo sarbakhon thake adhunik design er mobile....jeta ami anya kothao ghotte bishesh suni ba dekhini...

2. Meyera ekhane khub swadhin o dapute....kono dokane aj porjanta kono purush salesman dekhini....sudhu daroan chhara....meatstore theke furniture sarbotroi sudhu mohila kormi....emonki metro station er ticket counter eo sudhu mohiladeri adhipotto...chheleder jibika bolte bhari kayik porisramer kaj...athaba sikkhita hole kichhu office eo tader dekha mele

3. Chhele meyeder biye hoye gele ma babar sathe sudhu moukhik samparkha thake...parent der kono dai dayitto chhele ba meye neina...jato buro ba atharboi hok tader nijeder byabastha nijeder i korte hobe...setai samajik niyam...tai burira swiper, cleaner, ba flat er watchlady hisebe kaj korleo adhikangsa buroder dekha jai dustbin theke fele deoa khadya ba beer sangraha korte....gramer dike bayaskader kaj korei khete hoi....

4. Khub lajja o aswastir sathei likhchhi j Ukrainian meyera jounokormi hisebe biswabikhyato... eder kachhe nijer sarir bikri korata amader samajer mato aporadher kaj noi...garam kale etai ei desher mukhya byabsa....khub uchha padastha kormi na hole gor porta teenager theke suru kore 30 er ase pase jader bayas tara jathesta gourober sathe ei byabsate lipto...ebang etao sunechhi j march theke october porjanta prithibir bibhinna pranta theke bibahita ba abibahita rosik nagorder anagona chole ekhane....smajik swikritir sathe meyeder emon nijeder panya kore felar ghatanata satyi i amake aschorja korechhilo...

5. Eder poshak o amake chomokito korechhilo...eto rong milie dami poshak pore ba make up kore protiti mohila ...era kayekdiner jonye ghurte geleo jamar sathe match korie ekadhik bag, jacket o shoe nie jai...hok na se boro boro hunter shoe...fashin er sathe kono compromize chole na....esob dekheo abak hoye bhabi ki kore era nijeder gorib bole

6. Beshirbhag sishur shoishob kate tar babar sathei....amader deshe ja bhishon bhabe biral drishya...

7. Sob theke abak korechhilo jeta seta holo j ekhane kono bhabei english er procholon nei...khaoarer packet e anek bhashar lekha thake.. english thakena.. Internatinal airport eo poriskar English e katha bolar mato loker abhab...

8. Eder j abhyesti amake sob theke birakto korechhe seti holo j era kacha machh khai...kachha arthat rode sukno kora machh eder kachhe priyo khaoar...sudhu machh keno eder adhikangsha khaoar i ardha seddha ba kacha upokaran die toiri..

etosober madhyeo kichhu byatikrom abashyai achhe...Ukraine chaichhe Europian country hisebe porichiti pete...tai kichhu manush chesat korchhe English sekhar ba bolar.... kichhu sikkhita mohila abashyai nijeder jouno byabsa theke sorie rekhechhen bohudure...kichhu santan abashyai tader parents er proti sanbedanshil......eder ekti dik besh chokhe pore...r taholo Kiev er protiti barir interior khub sundar....r eder j bishoyti amake khub anandito o gorbito korechhe seti holo era bharotiyoder khub samman kore...karon eder biswas bharotiyara anek unnata jati tai eder 45bachhar agei tara tader swadhinata labh korechhilo...era bharotiyoder sanga pachhanda kore...

Culture shock- 2

Suparna Mitra Bhattacharya

UAE: UAE te medical was almost free kichudin agey porjonto-o. amar meye jonamaye c-section kore. we had to pay nothing except for the cabin charge. eta kintu INDIA te bhabte parbo na! r ekta bishoy boli, ekhaney kintu , unlike kolkata, bhishon bhabe normal delivery k importance day. amar meye breech position chilo tai c-section hoyeche.

o jonmabar por amake ekta onno hospitaley transfer kora hoyechilo, amar kichu somossar jonno. sekhaneo same bepar. sudhu room charge . r 4 bela puro hotel ey thakar moto khabar diechhe ora.songey help hishebe amar ma o amar songey chilen in the same room. shei hospital ey amar ki examination na hoyechhe. kintu kono poisha lageyni.. for tests and medicine.

actually shob resident der ekta kore medical card day era, on entrance to the country, which has a minimum fee. seta thakle kichui pay korte hoyna . (i am talking about government hospitals) govt hospitals r very very well equipped with latest technolgies and manpower. amader desher government hospitaler moto bhable cholbe na. kintu recently maternity hospitalser policy change hoyeche bole khobor peyechi...ekhon onek charges added hoyeche .

Culture Shock

Papiya

UAE: Riyadh e ami jaini, ami chhilam AlKhobar ( near Dammam) Ami March April 2007 e gechhilam :Abeya( kalo overcoat jatiyo poshak )amar bor kine rekhechhilo, r oita porei ghurechhilam, sunechhilam je,okhankar rastay naki religious police ba "muttaya" ghure beray random aar tara code na manle lokjon-ke harass kore. tai baire porar matro 2 to jama niye gechhilam, R oi dumas pray Pathander moto oi duto jama porei ghurechhi. but sotyi bolchhi, jaja sunechilam oirokom kintu hoina, ami jor diye bolte pari. age Saudi te ramjan er somoi khabar er dokan diner belay bondho thkato, kintu ekhon kichhu kichhu dokan khola thake.

r Saudi te batchelorder keu bari bhara dite chai na, amar bor chhilo ekta hotel pray 6 months, pore office er compound e shift kori n okhane kintu kono restriction nei, maxm bideshi, ami capri poreo ghure beriyechhi.

Balcony j ekebarei nei tao noi, tobe beshir bhag bari i ekdom plain, jekhane balcony achhe keu bose galpo o korena , ba jamakapor o shukai na. Dammam e kichhu Bangladeshi achhe jara oibhabe jamakapor shukai, r ekdin dekhechhilam amar hotel er janladiye , hotel er samnei ekti barite ekjon mohila coat rod e diyechhen.

r local police kintukonodin amader interfare /harras koreni, even okhane j Cornisch achhe (Qatar eo mone hoi achhe) okhane jaoar pothe ekdin rastay checking hoyechhilo, mohila dekhle kono kichhu r jigges kore na.

Mohila poilice, der anekei foreigner (like airport checking) r nurse beshirbhag i Philipino r kichhu Keralites Muslim. Nursder uniform holo kichhuta short Salwar kurta type, r mathay cap. Kichu Indian meyekeo dekhechhilam sref salwar kameej poreghure berate. ekjon er kotha sunechhilam, Rojar somoi din er belay rastay khabar khachchhilo, take police thanay niye giye bolechhe, bhetor e bose khan , samne khaben na. tobe eta shona kotha....

Office e Ramjaner somoi beshi restriction nei. karon anek employee ekhon non muslim, amar bor hotel theke khabar niye jeto , r jara muslim oder alada prayer room achhe sekhane giye prayed kore.

BONDHUTTO: EK ANWESHA

Rimjhim Dasgupta

Bondhutter poridhi? darun lagche topic-ta. poridhi perobo bolei to "orkute" aasha. khub bhalo lagche ekhane notun bondhuder peye.. gorbo hochche j Banglar Bodhur'r bodhura sudhu radhen na, chul O badhen.. amar kache bondhutter mane ANNWESHA..> KHONJ.. nijeke onyer chokhe dekha.. jar chokhe ami nijer protibimbo dekhte pabo, sei to amar bondu. bondhutter kono boyesh ba lingo ba shrenee nei. amar bondhu jara, sobaike somoy moto jogajog na korte parleo tara mukh phiriye nebe na, bondhutter govirota temni thakbe. protibimbote jodi kono chhaya pore, seta soraabar daye du tarofe e thakbe. tobei na amar annnweshan jari thakbe.. BHALO THEKO BONDHURA

Amra ki anno achiever der proti ignorant noi...?? Ekti alochona...

Suparna Bhattacharya , Jhum, Moumita

SUPARNA : Besh koek din dhorai ei khabor ta India te jhor tulche-- amader deshe cricketer chara anyo khehloar ra tader prapyo sonman demand korche. pore mone hocchilo sotti amader lojja paoa uchit amra 20/20 World Cup er prapti ta ke ato beshi kore importance dichhi baki jano kono khela e noi deshe....!! kano amra tader prapyo sonman debo na? samanno akta cricket match jetar jonno sara rat baji potka photano hoi..., Pankaj Advani er World Champion hoate kojon potka photalo? kal Viswanathan Anand abar world champion holo akta baji to futte sunlam na ta hole ki tader achievement er kono mulyo nai? Era desher nam sara biswer dorbare ujjol kore ar nirobe ghore fere na media oder ba oder ma babar pechone dourodouri kore na kono boro boro company oder sponsor kore na... ?.Cricker der achievement ke choto na korei tomader jiggas korchi oder ki prapyo sonman amader deoa uchit noi....?

JHUM : Suparna ei topic ta darun. vison prasonggik r jukti-songoto. Suparna ekdom thik bolecho. amader dese onek rokom kheladhula hoi. kintu matamati susdhu kintu hoi cricket nie. ami nijeo cricket khubi valobasi. kintu ta bole sotti eta kokhonoi banchonio noi je sudhu matro 1ta khela kendro korei jabotio uttejona r chitkar chechamechi. sotti amader desh jokhon 20-20 Cricket World Cup jete tokhono je anondo hoi, eki bhabe Viswanathan Anand jokhon chess e World Champion hoi tokhon amader desher tototai mukh ujjol joe othe. tahole keno amader deshe onyano khela ebong kheloarder songe erom boimatritto sulov bebohar?? tara ki kichu kom kosto kore khela ta khele naki tara desher mukhta ujjol kore korche na? otyonto ashchorjonok bepar eta. kodin age football eo india Neheru Cup jiteche. Hoccky te Asia Cup jiteche. kintu sesob nie kintu kothao kono matamati nei. onyo khela ebong kheloar der songe amader desher manus ebong songbad madhyom er erup bebohar tader kintu khubi kosto dei. tader utsaho ke onekangse komie dei. onno khelar kheloarder sob somoi mone hoi ki hobe khele amra to r kichu pabona. cricket e Yubraj Singh 6 ball e 6 ta 6 mereche bole take 1 koti taka dewa hobe. kintu Viswanathan Anand je ekai sara biswo ke harie champion hoe asche take amader desh ki debe? eta kintu vabbar somoi eseche.

MOUMITA : Topic ta bhishon interesting!! katha ta bhishon sotti, Indian Cricket team ke dekhle r oder ekta achievement e eto takar chorachori dekhle mone hoy 'tela mathaye tel deoya hocche' ...!! amader deshe aro anek sports ache, jemon Football, Hockey r katha prothamei mone pore. echarao Athletics e gramer diker chele meyera khub bhalo kore.......kintu sei khela gulo te na ache taka, na ache glamour! na prochar madhyomer hurohuri! sei khela gulo ke procharer aloye tule ana hok. r mone rakha dorkar 364 din Cricket niye maramati korbo r 1 din onyo khelar jonne....ta noy kintu!!

Aj cricket team jeete ele player der koti koti taka, gari, bari deoya hoy, kintu Hockey team jeete ele 5-10 hajar taka dhoriye deoya hoy..!! tai khub sangoto karonei ebar 3 jon senior hockey player hunger strike e bosechilo.

Majhe majhe ei eki Cricket team er hotasha-jonok performance (jodio jani khelaye har-jit dutoi ache) dekhe mone hoy 'keno o-patre eto dan??'

JYOTSNA SAPUI---Ekti alochona.

Nabanita, Baishakhi, Moumita

Nabanita : koekdin dhore Anandabajar-e police news ta porchi.sub inspector Jyotsna Sapui-er opor tar swosurbarir lokjon-er nirmom(pashobik kathata byabohar korlam na,karon poshu-ra erokom kaaj kore na) atyachar chalacche. ei prosongye tomader ki motamot?

Baishakhi : Jyotsna Sapui Das... ei ekti ghatana meyetake ekta alochonar bastu kore tullo... news paper khullei ajkal roshalo galpo... swahanubhuti janabe ebar nana katripokkho...!!

meyeti ekti shahoshi police kormochari... ebong tar bor ekjon engineer... kintu tar borer bari theke ja achoron pelo.. ta dekhe mone hoy... je shikkhai sudhumatro manush ke manush korte sahajjo korena, meyetir shoshurbarir lok ja proman rakhlo.....

kicchu takar jonne jara nijer barir bou ke eibhabe maren.. tara ki tokhon eta bojhen ba kheyal koren... je bou ta to nijer ccheler... jehetu porer barir meye.. tai chaliye jao nirjaton... hoyto er ageo joytsna ke shojjo korte hoyecche anek kicchu... madhusudan nakom amanushti koto torture korecche segulo to jana noy amader

jai hok... asha kora jay saraswati ar madhusudan ke khub taratari jail e poucchono hobe... and Jytosna shere uthe abar tar kormo jibon shuru kore sustho mone...

Nabamita : ektu anyorokom bhabna.... prothome-e boli ami kono rajnoitik bitorko parte chai na.Jyostna-r swosurbari-r lokjon-er shasti hobe ki na hobe ta niye-o montobyo korbo na. amar kharap laga ta anyokhane.ekti meye porashuno sikhe- police dept e kaj korche. arthanoitikbhabe swanirbhor.tarpor-eo etogulo din kichhu ashadhu lokjon(hok na taar swasurbari)-er atyachar nirobe sajhyo korlo. je maye-ti ke samaj-er dusto daman-er responsibility deoa hoyechhilo,se tar porobar-er anyae-r biruddhe-e konodin mukh khullo na. Baishakhi,tumi likhechho "sahoshi police ".satyi ki se sahosi? hain! media-r doulote sokoler sahanubhuti ei meye-tir dike.kintu ei prosno ki theke-e jaye na je,eto durbol-chitto ekti byakti police hisebei ba kotota nibhorjogyo?? je nijer surakksha-e korte pare na,se ki samaj-ke surakkha dite sakkham?

BAishakhi : manusher jibon dubhage bhag hoye jay.. ekti kormkhetrer jibon.. arekti grihobodhu.... amra office e joto proffessional , barite nishchoi ta noi...

thik temni Joytsna tar kormokhetre nishchoi sahoshi cchilo... kintu tar duty hours sesh hole bari fire se hoyto nijeke grihobodhu kore rakhto...

majhe majhe shanti bojay rakhar jonne kicchu byapar accept korte hoy... tabe shab byapar noy... hoyto Jyotsna mukh fute kicchu bolar agei tar opore shuru hoy pashobik ottachar...

Moumita : Jyotsna Sapui er ghotona ta pore amaro thik etai mone hoyechilo.... je meyeta somaj e annoke rokkha korar bhar niyeche, se nijekei rokkha korte parlo na...!!

anyaye je kore r anyaye je shohe, dujonei kintu doshi, ha abossoi anayekarir dosh anek anek beshi. Jyotsna police hoyeo nijeke rokkha korte parlo na, tahole grame gonje ba hoyeto sajano attalikate koto meye eibhabe shojyo kore chole shashurbarir attyachar....!!

hye re amader pora desh......r ei desher meyera!!! kiser je eto protibondhokora Jyotshna der moto shikkhito meyeder jara anyayer protibad korte pichiye jaye......ajo bujhina!! ei ki amader shobhyotar dike egiye chola????????tahole a kemon agrogoti?