Jhum:
koyek din age ekti cinema dekhlam. cinema ta dekhbar por thekei moner moddhe bes kichu proshno ar dwidha toiri hoyeche. cinemar naam dostaana. onekei nischoi er moddhe cinema ta dekhe feleche. cinematar main theme holo somokamita. jodio setale sudhu matro moja korar jonnei cinemar moddhe ana hoyeche. kintu cinema ta dekhar por thekei mone hocche sotti ki ajkal somokamita bepar ta sob manus etoi sohoje mene niyeche?? paschatyer kotha bolte parbona kintu amader dese ekhono kojon manus ei bepartake khub hasi mukhe mene nite pare. amader moto sadharon moner manuser ekhoni ki ei bepar ta niye moner moddhe dwidha dondo kaj korena??? amader moddhe koto jon ekhono khola mone somokamita mene nite pare?? ajkal eto besi rokom bere geche ei somokamita je banijyik chobir theme somokamita hoye jacche kichu din ageo ja vabai jetona. por por bes kichu chobi dekhlam jegulir theme somokamita. kintu janina ajkeo amra eto udar hoye gechi kina jate somokamita ke eto sohoje mene nite parbo bole. vogoban na korun amader prai sobari sontan ache ba sokolei vobisyote sontaner ma hobe. amader sontanera ajker ei adhunik juger manus bola jaina vogoban na korun amader karor sontan jodi erom bikrito manosikotar hoye othe amra kojon parbo setake mene nite????
ei niye ki bondhura tomra kichu vabo? ami kintu vison vabi. sunle sobai hasbe amar nijer sontan niye ami ekhon thekei vabi. voy hoi ki jani jodi seo erom bikrito manosikotar swikar hoye othe ma hisabe ki korte pari tokhon ami? tomra ki jano kivabe erom abnormality theke ekjon ma nistar pete paren??? tahole ekhon thekei hoito sesob sabdhanota obolombon kora jete pare. jodi ei bisoy ti niye kichu alochona hoi tahole hoito e bisoye amar moto ma jara ekhon thekei esob niye vito ebong sontrosto tader kichu upokar hote pare.
Moumita:
etar kichuta poth hoyeto medical science dite pare. R jotota dariyo somaj ba poribarer seta aro sokto hoya dorkar. kichu desh to somokamita ke legal swikriti dicche. ami seta ke somorthom kori na. eta obosso amar personal mot.
Western society te "gay rights movement " -o hote dekha jaye. gheNte dekhle dekha jabe er history -o besh purono...!!hoyto anekei ei bishoy anek broad-minded. kintu ami hote pari na. medical science jodi eta ke ekta 'mental illness' bole mene neye tahole somaj theke ei osukh ke muche pheler byebostha-o kora uchit, na-ki seta ke legalize kore udarota dekhano uchit!! jara ei osukhe osustho tader dosh na diye , sab osukh ke je bhabe treat kora hoy, orthat, rogi ke noy, rog ke nirmul kora uchit. mone hoy shudhu osudh noy ekta sustho poribesh , mental peace, normal atmosphere proti ti sishu ke deoya uchit.
'Dostana' film e jotota khola mela bhabe Homosexuality ke dekhano hoyeche, seta ekta shisu ke dekhano uchit noy, emonki teenager dero noy! kintu ekhon media/ tv sob kichu kei emon bhabe pesh kore je chotoder thekeo eisab jinish beshi chapa thake na! er modhyei bere uthche notun generation ete kono sondeho nei. tai baba ma ke aro socheton hote hobe.
Anupa:
@jhum
Amar jana ekta ghotonar kotha boli. Amader parai ekjon dada chhilo..amar theke boyeshhe ektu boro kintu ammader sathe khelte ashto. Chhele hole ki hobe shobshomoi meyeder songo pochhondo korto, putul khela, bari bari khela,elating bela ting shoilo, hata khunti daona...arr shobetei o meyeder role korte chaito...to chhotobelar sorol mone amra konodini oke amader khelar sathi korte dwidha kori ni. Erpor aste aste amra boro hote thaklam kintu opu da tokhono amader sathei beshi golpo korte, hashi thatta korte bhalobashto..parar saraswati pujo o amader sathe alpona dito, pujor phol katto, phuul tulte jeto arr chheleder dekhlei bolte ora baje oder sathe khelte nei...parar shob chhelera oke moja kore bolto "opu di"..jaihok kakima kintu eta bhalobashten na ekdom...amader sathe dekhlei boka boki korten..tarpore chheler bhalo hobar jonyo ekta Bordhomane kothai all boys school e bhorti kore dilen...kintu Opu da jokhon majhe majhe ashto tokhon sujog pelei amader sathe adda jomate ashto...arr eshei khali Amir khan, Salman Khan eii shob hero der proshongsha korto thik amader sathe tal miliye...prothom dike byaparta na bujhlei pore amra bujhlam je or khali chheleder bhalo lage...jouboner prarombhe amra meyera ja anubhob kori o thik tai anubhob korto...er pore hotha t ekdin ora para chhere chole gelo...
Amar biyer thik agei ekdin kaku kakima (opu dar baba ma ) eshe or biyer nimontron kore gelen...amra giyechhilam o or biyete...khub mishti boudi ..Opudao dekhlam besh dhuti punjabi pore bor sejhe ghure berachhe....khub bhalo laglo oder dekhe..
Kintu eii bar ejokhon kolkatai gelam tokhon khobor pelam je opuda naki or bouke chhere diye ekjon chhele bondhur sathe thake...oder ekti chotto meyeo hoyechhilo..kintu keno ba kisher ashar opu da eii decision ta nile ta amar ojana tobe eii tuku bolte pari je kaku kakima tader kono truti rakhen ni chheler eii adbhut meyelipana katanor jonyo...
Amar mone hoii eta ekta mansohik anubhuti..kichhu manush achhen jader biporit lingor cheye tader nijeder lingo r manushjoner proti beshi akorshon anubhob koren..eii bare keno eii bichitro manoshikota ba kotha theke er udbhabo hoi sheta shomaj bigyanira aro beshi bhalo bote parben..tobe opu dar ghotona theke sudhui eii tukui bolte pari onek shomoi baba mayer hatheo eii dhoroner bikrito manoshikota theke nijer shontan ke bachano shombhob hoi na...karon kakima ke dekhechhi ki bhishon bhabe chaiten je chhele ekta sushtho swabhabik jibon japon karuk...
Tor je proshno shei proshno amaro...kintu sotti ki amamder hathe eii dhoroner kutstit probitri theke nijer shontan ke biroto thakar kono upai achhe..naki somokamirao bhagobaner ek bichitro shristi r foshol matro?
Shraddha:
@jhum
ekhane tor proshonai uthe eshechhe, uttore bolchhe, " No we cannot cut short the homosexual tendencies among the people born with biological disorders and they can remain happy with normal partners. But we can reduce the number among the normal people, who develop such relationships with growing age. First of all we should remember the fact that such relationships normally develop due to negligence of parents. When children grow up to 8 or 10 years of age, the parents feel their children have grown up and need not care. Some parents also start to neglect their children and do not give adequate time to them. Automatically a gap develops between the children and parents.
Love and affection is a human nature, the children who do not get it, start searching for people from whom they can find the same. For children of around 10 years, the friends become ultimate choice, with whom they can share everything. But, the growing children don’t have the maturity and they don’t think much about the person on the other side. And at this juncture if by mistake they make friends having a homosexual nature, the same tendencies start to develop among them. "
"Most importantly, the parents who don’t care much about growing children, never know the truth. Only when their children cross all limits they make a hue and cry and try to bring them back to normal. Here I would like say to parents that till teenage a child remains a child. So, always take proper care of your children till they become mature. Also monitor your children with whom they meet and inquire about the friends around.
Movies, some television programmes and some websites also leave bad impressions in the mind of growing children. Keep track of them, and find out do your children have become obsessed with such stuff.
Blaming such relationships is not the solution of problem. If unfortunately, you find your children involved in same-sex relationships always try to console them, instead of becoming harsh. You can bring back your children back to normal by winning their faith and affection. "
Moumita:
Ami ekta ghotona jani, jekhane kintu baba ma-r modhye kharap relation, family problems ityadi karone meyeti eidhoroner somokamitar somporke joriye porechilo.
amar boner ek bondhur ghotona bolchi. Adolescence period e tar barir poribesh khub ekta bhalo chilo na. parar motamoti sobai janto barite roj rate meyetir baba-mar modhye juddho chole. tar opor meyetir ek kaka chilo, boner mukhe shunechi meyeti sei kakar theke abusive behavior (even sexual) peto...!
jar phole prothome meyetir porashona kharap hote thaklo, bhalo school chere parar ekti school e bhorti holo. tarpor kichudin pore shunte pelam sei notun school er ekta meyer sathe or ekta somokamitar relation gore utheche! ekhane bola darkar amar boner bondhuti amader bariteo bohubar asheche, kokhono kono abnormal behavior dekhini, o je same sex er proti attracted bujhini kokhonoi. ei case suompurno rupe meyetir barir poribesh dayi. jar sathe ei meyeti ke niye eto katha uthlo se abar typical 'tomboy' , jeans-t-shirt chara pore na, boy's cut chul....
r ekta ghotona mone porlo amader barirte kaj korto je mohila tar 2 meye-o kaj korto. boro meyetar biye hoyechilo kintu bor chere chole jaye. tar ekta chele achilo. sei cheleta ke baccha boyesh thekei dekhchi. sab somoy dida/ ma-r sathe asto. cheleta ekhon boro hoye geche, puro meyeder moto katha barta, chola phera, nokhe nail-polish!! keno jano? chotobela theke dekhechi or mashi ba ma oke kajol poraye, nail polish poraye, sudhu jama kapor tai cheleder moto! 3 te meyer sathe thakte thakte o meyeder motoi hoye geche! school e cheleder ke voy paye, beshi meshe na!
ei duto ghotona proman kore poribar kotota probhab phele ei byepareo.
Devalina:
Ei niye amar kichhu experience boli.
-India te ekhono homosexuality (somokamityo) illegal.
Legal korbar cheshta cholchhe. Tai kholakholi relationship ta prokash kora jaay na.
-Dhora porle eder ke police aar onnyo byekti ra khub i harass korey
-Homosexuality is inherent and genetic- eta ekhon proman kora giyechhe.
-Homosexual ACT aar Homosexual LIFESTYLE e anek tofat achhe. Homosexual act (Sodomy ba anal intercourse) sometimes non homosexual ra o korey thake.
Kintu Lifestyle e partnerships gulo bibahito lok jon er moton i- shei ghor kora, ranna, bill payment, life insurance, oshukh bishukh e jotno, heno teno.
-Aajkal- Somokami mohilader modhye ek jon hoy toh Artificial Insemination e pregnant o ho`n. Shey bachha`r jotno dui `Ma` i koren.
Somokami purush ra o `surrogate mother` er shahajye bap ho`n ba adoption er pothe jaan. Ebong dujon i `baba`r role` dhoren.
-Amar experience e joto somokami lok dekhechhi- PROTYEKE khub bhalo lok ebong marjito byaboharer manush.
Amar kichhu patient e rokom families er bachha. Shokoley khub excellent care aar bhalobasha diye manush hoyechhe. Eder kono conflict dekhini. In fact- ekta bachha o boro hoye somokami hoy ni- keno ta jani na. Kintu bolbo je kono baccha ke somokami lifestyle accept korte hoy ni.
Boishakhi:
Homosexuality - ekhon kothata gaa showa hoye gecche - ami ekhane kicchu likhte chaina - likhlei tarker srishti hobe ami jani...
ami boro hoyecchi Germany te - tai anek cchoto bela thekei dekhe ashcchi byaparta - tai hoyto ekhon mene nite pari sahaj bhabei.
Tarpore India giye dekhlam je Bombay - Delhi'r moto city gulo ar toakka korena - they do not openly portrait their sexual orientation but it has started picking up the speed.
De-di tumi jegulo boleccho nishchoi thik boleccho - tobe I have seen people who were happily married for 10-15 yrs and all of a sudden realized that they are not happy in their marriage as they are homo.
Tobe ei kotha tao thik - amader bharatbarshe Homosexuality anek bhabe dhora porecche - nana samaye nana manusher majhe... exp: Michael Madhusudhan Dutta.
Tacchara amader deshe amra cchele meyera ekhono seibhabe khola mela bhabe college e othar age mishte parina (co-ed porle different thing) - shei khetre priya bandhabi hoye jay shab sukh dukkher sathi. Ar etao shotti je shei bandhabir sathe anek dharaner saririk samparka toiri hoye aneker.
ccheleder byapare botle parbona... tabe barite dadar bandhu ele dekhecchi ek bedroom - same bed share korcche - EU, USA to bhabai jayna erakam... kinba du bandhabi haathe haat diye cholcche -s etao bhaba jayna ekhane... ar amader deshe eta koto swabhabik.
Baba Ma'ra kikore podokkhep ta nebe?? eta ki sambhab.... ekta sampurna manashik byapar jekhane kaaj korcche.... ar tar sathe acche physical satisfaction... seta to bujhiye sujhiye ana ba dur kora jayna.
Amar mone hoy prattekta manusher right acche jibone khushi thakar - ar as long as he/she is not harming anyone - they can live their life as they want.
Ar anek khetre dekha gecche - baba ma'r chape biye to kore felecche but then both became extremely unhappy.
I do not mind if someone feels different - The only thing I know is Gay Men are extremely friendly (i know 5 of them) ;)
devalina:
tobe I have seen people who were happily married for 10-15 yrs and all of a sudden realized that they are not happy in their marriage as they are homo.
Amar kintu eta mante ashubidha achhe. Actually, 10 -15 years dhorey shobai jaane byaparta. Kintu family aar societal (and even money pressures) er jonnye khuley bolte paare na. 10- 15 years e jotheshto income aar resource holey- tarpor shei arrangement bhangbar shahosh hoy. Bishesh korey jodi chhoto bachhara thake in the picture.
Aar being married to the wrong person- even if not homosexual, o orokom time frame e o biye bhenge jaay.
Chhobi: Internet
